Sunday, April 4, 2010

Easter and stuff

It's so hard to do this on a regular basis. I mean it's not that I don't want to, but sometimes it's a matter of not wanting to hurt any one's feelings. This is a little bit different since it's so public a forum.

So, where do I start? Well, today is Easter. It's been awesome actually celebrating Holy week at church. We have never attended a church that celebrated the resurrection of Jesus in such a magnificent way. This is an amazing place to be. I'm glad we found them. I can honestly say I have never felt more at home in a church in all my life. It's a great feeling. St. John the Apostle is the best!

Holidays are always tough though when you try and be diplomatic about sharing your time and seeing "both" sides of the family. It would be nice to have a big enough place and just do it here. In all honesty we may do that next year. It's just so hard to bounce around all day. It doesn't leave a whole lot of time for enjoying the holiday and I inevitably feel guilty for cutting our time short with one family or the other. It's a tough situation and I don't like it at all.

Joseph enjoyed the day though. He is understanding holidays a little more and more. It will still be awhile before he grasps the complete and true concept, but he's getting there.

He really enjoyed the Easter egg hunt at church. He also has enjoyed eating all the candy associated with Easter today. In fact, because we were gone so much today, he didn't even get to see what the Easter bunny left for him. He'll see tomorrow morning I guess.

He also really liked coloring the Easter eggs on Saturday night. He's such a funny kid. I love the way he does things. By the end his hands were completely green and he looked more Hulk than Aberlich. But, it was nothing a nice soak in a bubble bath couldn't take care of.

I also regret to say that I think we may be approaching the terrible two's. Joseph has been asserting his independence about napping lately. Unfortunately since he isn't in the crib anymore, I can't "make" him take a nap. I really hope this is not the end of naps. For any of you who really know me, you understand my love for naps. This would be a difficult change for me. They always tell you in the classes and the books, sleep when your child is sleeping and I try really hard to stick to it. But, I'm not ready to give naps up yet. And in complete truth, neither is Joseph. He's just trying to be bossy.

He's an awesome kid though. We are complimented on him so often. There aren't very many people who meet Joseph and don't fall completely in love with him. He has an amazing effect on people. We really are blessed. I never would have imagined my kid could be this awesome. He has exceeded all of my dreams and expectations of children and motherhood.

Oh also this has been weighing on my mind. But, as to not cause problems I will keep everyone anonymous in this story. On Friday while we were at church for the Good Friday service some people that we are close with came to church for this special service. The people that came are people that haven't completely accepted me and judge my abilities not only as an adult, and wife, but also a mother. A member of our congregation began talking to them and mentioned how much they love Joseph and how great of a mom I am. It was nice to have the outside affirmation and appreciation. They didn't confirm or agree with the statement, but I hope it maybe weighed on their minds, that I am a reasonably responsible adult, satisfactory wife, and a half way decent mother. I know the person who said this reads my blog, and I am thankful for their kind words and warm heart. You know who you are.

Another thing that's been on my mind lately is about time sharing. No, I'm not talking about purchasing a vacation spot. I'm talking about sharing what little time we do have as a family with other people. Maybe we've been stingy. Maybe not. But it's hard when you have only a few quality hours with your family where everyone is awake to dole them out to other things. I love my friends and the rest of my family, but I need a little slack. Jeremiah will be leaving in June for at LEAST two months. It's hard not to be selfish when you know you are going to be apart, and aren't completely 100% certain when you will be together again. I'm not trying to alienate anyone, I'm just trying to make the most of the little bits of time we have together. It's so hard to juggle free time in a way to please everyone. I wish I was better at it than I am.

This wouldn't be a complete blog if I didn't discuss baby fever for a moment. Most of you know (especially if you've read any of my other blogs on here or on myspace) that I had a difficult, to say the least, pregnancy with Joseph. Although pre-eclampsia and PIH can strike women of every shape and size, your risk of developing it if you are overweight is dramatically increased. So, with the planning of a second child in the future I am going to try my best to eat better, get more daily activity and lose a little weight. It's worth a shot if it will possibly help me to carry our next child with fewer complications. I hope this more tangible reason for a healthier lifestyle will stick. I really want to be able to take my next child home from the hospital when I leave the hospital. My plan is to start this better, healthy lifestyle tomorrow.

In closing I would just like to again reiterate how awesome Joseph is. I can never say it enough. That kid is amazing!


  1. Kathy, you are stronger than any misconception of you, YOU and the people who care about you the most, know that you are an amazing mother, wife and friend!
    I am stoaked that you are thinking about another child, if you have another, maybe I will get to watch Joseph sometime :) By the way, if you and JJ need a night out, I am FREE baby sitter, I would love to help.
    I think you need to think more about your Family, JOseph and JJ and take a rest from the social life, those two need you more than your friends and parents. Your marriage should always be first! Its the foundation of a heathy life style. Enjoy your husband and child and forget about how other people are feeling if you cant get around to seeing them, if they truely care about you, they will be there when you have free time! (Like me)
    I love you, and I know things will be better soon.

  2. K-

    You are an amazing person, wife, mother & friend! I so enjoy your blog and I feel very blessed to have you as part of my life.

    I've been through the napping situation, too. Heck, my youngest is 11 and I'm still not ready to give up naps. :-) The rule was that they didn't have to sleep but they did have to stay in their bed. We stopped calling it nap time and started calling it quiet time. I would set the alarm and they couldn't get out of bed until the alarm went off. This also helps them learn to get up to an alarm once they are in school. Just try to find an alarm that is difficult to change. Yeah, I've had them try that one. If you can have a special "after quiet time" activities, like puzzles or reading or ???, it will be an incentive to stay in bed (no quiet time, no activity). You can always just flat out bribe them, too.

    And I totally understand your desire to be "stingy" with your family time. We have gotten so busy that we don't appreciate family time anymore. Stick to your guns. You are doing great!